Circle of Your Friends

"Circle of Your Friends" ... Listening to my new favorites, Iron and Wine, I am inspired to write down some thoughts that have been circling my own head regarding friendships.

I have been so fortunate for great friendships throughout my lifetime. They are people that come into my life at just the right moment - for support, for teachings, for laughter, for a little push in one direction ar another, for giving and sharing - and as the scenery changes, so do the friends... or better said, the circle continues to grow with each location. These travels add to the expansion of this great circle, but as with everything else, the flow is constant, and I have found that the more you try to hold onto something and make it permanent, the more you will find yourself struggling and frustrated. It´s like going upstream... you maybe can get away with it for awhile, but eventually you wear yourself out because you are going against the current of life, versus with it. Leaving a "home" (on more than one occasion) brought this to light... and it was brought up again through my travels... At first, I wanted to cling to these friendships and was allowing myself to feel "hurt" when it didn´t work the same as if i "had" them present in my daily life... but as i "let them go" (not in the snseof letting go of the friendship, bust just allowing for flow and being grateful for what their PRESENce brought to my life), knowing that i have everything i need at this moment and always, i created space for the expansion of the circle. People come and go in perfect syncronicity, and staying in the present, not anchored to the past or hopeful for the future, allows you to see those beautiful souls (reflections) that cross your path...and the network continues to grow...

which brings me to the opposite end of the spectrum (not forgetting that they are one in the same, just different expressions)... the best of all friendships...the center of ALL friendships... the one with SELF...finding comfort in the "interior."

from Osho
"Remember, when you are alone, you are not alone; you are lonely. You miss the company of the other. You miss the company of the other because you have not yet learned to be in your own company. You miss the company of the other because you don´t know how to be with yourself. Loneliness is negative, the absence of the other. Aloneness is POSITIVE, the presence of your own being. Loneliness is solitariness. Aloneness is Solitude. (*Remember "the wine"? Yum to Solitude!) Lonliness is ugly, Aloneness is beautiful. Aloneness has a lumonousity in it... When you are sitting alone, you are lonely, you are simply missing. Deep down you are seeking some company - where to go, what to do, how to get occupied so that you can forget yourself. You have not yet created a relationship with yourself. You have not yet fallen in love with yourSELF."

How beautiful life becomes when your bestest of best.. all time BFF... is Self. Then you are not lonely beacause you are forever ALLONE. Friends come and go that share love, laughter, wisdom, kindess, generosity, but joy does not rest in their presence. Joy is carried in the heart and is always present... and that goes for all "exterior" relationships...

P.S. I left my costal paradise for a honeymoon with Self to the place where it all began... Zaragoza, España...the birthplace of la Pilar... a time to celebrate the love of Self... aka Pilar(in this lifetime)... I heart I.